I spotted this in my Facebook newsfeed and although I’m not usually one to pass around these types of things, I found myself agreeing with all the ‘rules’ so much. Definitely something to think about…
1. Make peace with your past, so it won’t disturb the present – It can be hard to move on from your past. I’m now very happily married for a second time, but getting over my first marriage ending was really tough. It’s taken time, but I do feel much more at peace with my past these days. It’s a good feeling. Doesn’t mean to say your past won’t bite you on the arse occasionally, just don’t dwell…the present time is what’s important.
2. What other people think of you is none of your business – I think a great many people care too much about what people think of them, including myself! As I get older though, I care less about the superficial stuff and more about trying to be a good wife/friend (that sounded SO worthy…it’s true though!). Caring about what your closest friends and family thinks of you is a good thing.
3. Time heals almost anything. Give it time – it certainly helps! (see no. 1)
4. No one is in charge of your happiness, except you – very true. Our partners cannot define our happy we are, they help…but we can only truly be happy if we accept and love ourselves, which can be a tricky thing to do. It took me until my 30’s to truly ‘get’ this.
5. Don’t compare your life to others…and don’t judge them, you have no idea what their journey is about – as a blogger, it can be hard not to compare yourself to other bloggers. For me, I have so many ideas, but not enough time…so many others seem to have more time to blog. However, comparisons just don’t help at all. It’s like looking sideways all the time when you’re meant to be moving forwards (a bit like looking backwards in no. 1). Focus on your best qualities, like I said…love yourself. But also extend that to others. We’re on our own journeys that no one else should pretend they really understand. Judging other people only makes ourselves unhappy. Negativity breeds negativity.
6. Stop thinking too much. It’s alright not to know the answers – this one deserves to be starred and underlined. Many of us think too much…our minds can get locked into unhelpful patterns. I practice Mindfulness, which has helped me enormously. I used to think it was just me that thought far too much, over-analysing every little things. However I speak to lots of friends these days that say this do this too. To every person, I recommend that book.
7. Smile. You don’t own all the problems in the world – damn straight.